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Since Amie knew what the papers were for by the time she was delivered
to Mom, we reinforced
their use. "Good wee wee papers, Amie." When she used another place, we
said, "Kakker no like
Amie wee wee here." She learned what "here" means really quickly when she
wanted to play ball.
"Give Kakker ball here". It seemed like she just was refusing to understand
that we did not want
her urinating on the carpet. I would use an odor-neutralizer or sometimes
vinegar, but it didn't
help. After about a year of living in my Mom's house I couldn't shake an
allergy. I decided to
remove the wall-to-wall carpeting and found innumerable spots where she
had urinated - some a
little moldy. We scrubbed the floors and aside from some urinary problems,
Amie became a
regular paper user ever since. When
she wakes up, after a nap, after eating or drinking water, after
play or exercise, when she sniffs,
when nervous, I say, "Better go now, Amie wee wee papers". She
often takes my advice.
For a time I would pick up Amie and say "Kakker like Amie good girl" (while
rubbing her ears).
Kakker no like Amie wee wee here," as I patted the kitchen floor. She looked
into my eyes not
moving a muscle. I took her to her papers and said "Kakker like Amie wee
wee papers." I did
this about a dozen times over two weeks and when she got the point she
would turn away from
me and do her low growl. This was an important moment for us.
Every time she successfully uses the papers I praise her
"Good Amie wee wee papers. What a
good girl". I dance with delight and rub her ears.
Occasionally, especially with her kidney problems, she doesn't quite make
it to her papers. And
as she ages she is less able. She knows that Kakker no like Amie wee wee
here and she is almost
as distressed as we are. So I now put down a towel that at least absorbs
the moisture and doesn't
destroy the wood floor. I tried a newborn diaper but she just walked right
out of it. When she
becomes incontinent I wonder what diaper method will work.
CAGE
TRAINING
Dogs supposedly love the coziness of a wire cage. We tried training her
by using a fold-up wire
dog crate that my mom used as Amie's bed, but she hated it. She banged
her head on the sides,
chewed the paint off the metal and looked especially pitiful when put in
there. She often would
wet her bed. After trying for many months to use the cage for discipline,
containment, for a bed,
we decided we'd contain her with a dog gate in the kitchen when needed
and use a large piled
blanket for her bed near us.
REWARDS
We tried using food as rewards to get her to sit, stay, etc. She would
not "perform" for treats. I
am relieved to see that a pet's primary motivation should be to win
approval, not to receive a
snack. When a dog is on a restricted diet, there are no snacks.
OBEDIENCE
SCHOOL
Mom and I took Amie to obedience school. It was a real disappointment.
The Nazi who ran the
camp still seems to me to have been exceptionally cruel. He was a member
of the National
Association of Dog Obedience Instructors and was considered the best trainer
in our area. This
was a man more devoted to mastering the dog and preparing it for show than
addressing our
basic real world discipline needs. I understand that the same behaviors
used in showing are good
for training discipline, but I couldn't get excited about the competition
aspect or the harshness of
his methods. The hallmark of his style was to yell at the dog and make
the dog know who is boss
by yanking so hard on the leash, that dogs would yelp in pain. There were
about 30 dogs, all at
least 50 to 100 pounds bigger than Amie. Amie at about 5 pounds was by
far the smallest dog
among the pit bulls, dobermans, and German shepherds. She shook with fear
the whole time.
However, she did learn "Halt". When we are walking and I stop, she sits.
Dogs require exercise and playfulness each day. Sometimes its hard to schedule
quality time, but
I found she makes me laugh and that alone is worth the time. Always end
play with positive
reinforcement.
I would really like to see
a book or video about training dogs using play. What are the bonding
games people can enjoy,
too, while training a dog? Christmas 1997 we received a game you play
with your dog called, "My
Dog Can Do That". After a quick review I thought, "No, she can't!"
Amie won't perform for rewards,
but we are still optimistic and excited about trying it.
Amie loves to play tug of war with Jeff's old socks. Fortunately early
on we learned that this could
damage her teeth and it creates aggressive behavior. For a long time after
we stopped playing tug
of war she would bring us the sock and put it into our hands. She finally
learned the game was
over.
Amie's favorite game is playing catch. She demolished and ingested every
ball we gave her until
we found blue racquet balls.
Put them in the dishwasher to get the stink off and to occasionally
freshen them. Using the ball
she learned a little patience. I would wait until she was paying strict
attention to me before throwing
the ball. She learned to anticipate where the ball would go before
I threw it by looking at my eyes.
She would get the ball and I would insist that she place the ball
right by my hand "Ball HERE,
Amie". Or I would point to a place where I wanted her to put the
ball. She wants to play chase
the ball so badly she would do exactly as I instructed. I have tried to
teach her to put her balls in
her toy basket "Put your toys away, Amie" as I collect them and put
them away but so far she just watches
me clean up after her. Now Amie isn't as motivated to play
ball as she once was. She tires quickly
and she tells me now how she wants me to throw the ball
(throw so she'll have to run or throw
so she can catch it in her mouth). I wish when she was
younger and I had more energy for training
and less frustration at my inability to communicate with
her that I would have used the ball to teach
her the names of rooms of the house and other words.
Once a friend brought her dog over to play with Amie. Although the male
was Amie's size, she hid
under the bed. She doesn't like socializing with others. I have asked veterinarians
for games to
play with Amie and they look
at me as if I'd asked them a really dumb question - like everyone
should know this.
The cage did not work. The special cotton blankie in a cozy basket didn't
work. Amie wanted -
demanded - to sleep with us. Everything we read said that was a very bad
idea. The pack leader
gets the choicest spot. For the
first 9 months she stared at us from the floor and refused to snuggle
us while we were on the couch
watching TV. One day she jumped up and let us hold her. Letting
Amie sleep with us was another
break-through. We took it as an honor that she would trust us
enough to sleep with us. She
gets the foot of the bed - not the choicest spot. She bonded with us
without thinking she was a person.
She was much more willing to please once the battle over
sleeping turf had been settled.
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Amie was a biter. Experts advised to bite back, but I didn't want to inflict
pain. She would bite,
sometimes breaking the skin. I had to learn what her safe zones were and
not invade them. Hand
down with the back of the hand facing her is the way to approach. Until
I learned that I was
bitten quite a bit. One time
it really hurt and I was genuinely pained. I said "Ow! Ow! Ow!"
Instead of getting mad at her,
which is what I usually did, I held my hand and made crying noises.
"Poor Kakker", I said as I rubbed
my hand. I looked at her with a hurt expression on my face.
She came to me and licked my
hand. She hardly bites now.
I'm very concerned because, being so small, children think she's a docile
toy. She knows that
biting is not acceptable behavior,
but I am terrified some child will poke her and Amie will bite.
She will sometimes go into a trash basket and pull out a used tissue, chew
on it a while and then
shred it all over the house.
She knows Kakker no like Amie chew paper. I have finally linked it
with too high or too low urine
pH. Trying to get the tissue away from her is really hard. She won't
be distracted by a passing ball
and she will bite to hurt if I get too close. If I say "No chew!
Danger! Danger! Ick pah yechh!
Drop it" and if she really believes I think it is dangerous (such as
a piece of chocolate or a match)
she will drop it, but she will guard it as her possession and try to
eat it later. Similarly, she will stand
guard over a paper clip or scavenged piece of popcorn or a
twig. She used to snarl at me and I would
snarl back, but that just escalated the tension. I get an
unfolded piece of newspaper and cover her
face while I rapidly remove the dangerous item. She
barks, lunges and tries to bite. I try to excuse her
because she is not well.
BARKING
Another really annoying and intractable problem was her barking. Amie barked
incessantly. We
live on a street with busy foot
traffic. A falling leaf could be provocation enough for her to bark
and bark. Anyone going by would
set her off - children and strollers, especially. There are quite
a few stray cats that pass by
on their rounds to the local restaurants and that would get really set
off a barking tirade.
My sister suggested that we keep her on a leash while I worked at the computer.
(She saw this
on Matty Margolis' dog training
show shown on PBS). I tugged at the leash and said "Amie, no
speak" when she barked inappropriately.
One time she barked and barked and the tugging
wouldn't stop her. I didn't
know she was telling me she wanted to get to her papers.
A vet gave me a horse-sized hypodermic syringe without the needle. Filled
with water, it had
great range - at least 12 feet
- and really worked pretty well. Amie no like being squirted with
water. Even that didn't seem
to work, though.
Then I learned that she thought she was protecting us with her barking.
She needed to learn to
distinguish when it was appropriate to bark. We began praising her for
barking when someone
knocked on the door or came onto our property (meter readers, trespassers,
stray children, etc.).
Once she knew it was good to bark at times, she figured out pretty quickly
when it was a "good
speak" or a "no speak". This problem lasted a lot longer that it should
have and was compounded
by her urinary problems, which
made her excitable and irritated. Of course, we didn't know that
then.
Amie was not a very destructive chewer, but she could have been. When she
chewed a slipper or
piece of underwear we gave her a braided cotton chew-toy and would say,
"Good chew, Amie"
or "Chew HERE". We found that
when she chewed something she was usually trying to get our
attention. For example if I am
engaged in work, she might filch some of my papers and chew
them. "Pay attention to me."
We became very careful of where we would throw our worn clothes.
She loves napping in dirty laundry.
With her skin problems
we have been on her case about chewing off her fur. "Amie, no chew
Amie. Kiss Amie." We reinforce
her licking herself, but tell her not to pull out her hair. When she
can't stop chewing herself, we
know she's in allergy trouble.
By far her favorite activity is going to the beach. We have to spell it
even in casual conversation
because she gets so excited. Call me crazy but I think even a lap dog needs
to run free now and
then. We live near a beach where
it is clearly marked that dogs need to be on a leash. Nobody
pays attention to that warning
when the crowds aren't there. Amie would run far down the beach
and wouldn't hear me call or
wouldn't come if she did. Occasionally dead fish wash up onto the
beach and I certainly did not
want her to eat one. I would take her into the sand dunes away from
people or other dogs but one
time it took me about 2 hours to finally get her.
One day we were walking down the beach with Amie so far ahead that she
looked like a black
speck against the sand. Several
large dogs came bounding from the parking lot and immediately
ran to meet her. She was never
in danger, but she didn't know that. She outran them and I
scooped her up. If that had not
happened I don't know how we would have trained her to stay
close to us and come when called.
Not a problem anymore. Recently a small poodle was killed
by a huskie at a local park. Both dogs
were off the leash, so we're a lot more careful now.
I stumbled on a way to teach her a lesson. She had been jumping on guests.
"No jump, Amie.
Kakker no like Amie jump." She would ignore me. All the dog expert advice
said to knee the dog
in the chest when jumping. I
couldn't do it - even for her and my own good. I would pick her up
and hold her tightly to contain her from jumping all over whoever walked
in the door. One time I
put her in the kitchen with access
to her papers, food and water and leaned a doggie door (a
wood-framed collapsible mesh
device) in the doorway. I said "Kakker no like Amie jump. Amie
go to jail." She could see us,
but couldn't play with us. She immediately understood. After a few
moments I picked her up, petted
her and whispered "Kakker no like Amie jump, okay?" From
that moment she has really wanted
to jump, but doesn't. And if she has been testing me in other
ways I don't yell, I quietly ask,
"Amie wanna go to jail?" She stops doing what she shouldn't do.
This has caused some confusion when
I have wanted to contain her such as when the chimney
sweep is working, but I tell her "Amie good
girl, Amie stay here, okay?" And she seems to know
the difference between containment and solitary
confinement.
Even with such good intentions, what a dis-service our ownership has been
to this poor puppy. I
can't say strongly enough that
if you don't have the knowledge and time to properly train a dog,
you shouldn't have one. Amie
was an orphan, though, and I think we've made up lost ground and
loved her quite well.
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